Unfortunately, in life, we all go through some type of grief. But the most painful grief is over the loss of a loved one, and this kind of sorrow often feels like an insurmountable burden that weighs heavily on our hearts and minds. No matter how hard we try, we can never be fully prepared for how to deal with it, as the heartache can strike when we least expect it, often catching us off guard. There is no playbook or guidelines on how to navigate the tumultuous waters of grief or a specific timeframe on when to get over it; it is a deeply personal journey that differs for everyone. We can only leave it to God and time, allowing ourselves to heal at our own pace, even if that means taking one small step forward and several steps back.
But having a support system around you could be immensely helpful during this difficult time. Having people reach out with a text, a phone call, or a card can go a long way in reminding you that you are not alone in your pain, reinforcing the notion that connection and community can provide solace in moments of despair. Equally important is giving yourself grace to feel sad; it’s a vital part of the healing process that should not be rushed. The important thing is that you try every day to accept the support offered to you and take tiny steps to avoid isolating yourself from those who care, opening up yourself to the love and compassion that surrounds you. Simple gestures like chatting with someone, taking a walk, listening to music, or indulging in a luxurious bath that may help soothe your spirit can be profoundly healing. It’s essential to recognize that with time, the frequency and intensity of the sadness do become more bearable, transitioning from a sharp pang to a more dull ache, which is a sign of healing.

For those on the supporting end, be conscious of the fact that the person you are supporting may not always seem warm or eager to communicate, and it’s crucial not to take it personally; their emotional state often isn’t a reflection of your care. Let them know, in your words or actions, that you are there anytime they need you, and ensure that you truly mean it with sincerity and patience. If they seem overwhelmed and don’t want to talk or answer the phone, send a gentle text letting them know you are praying for them and that you’re here whenever they need you, reminding them that your support is unwavering. If they appear to be in the mood for companionship, consider taking them out or visiting them with something you know they would enjoy to eat; a small act of kindness can lighten a heavy heart. But remember to let them express themselves and talk about whatever they wish to discuss, permitting the conversation to follow their lead.
Perhaps they want to share their feelings, recount cherished memories, or even switch topics entirely to politics or the weather—whatever brings them comfort in that moment, let them lead the conversation. Being there, listening, and validating their emotions can significantly contribute to their healing journey, as the act of being present can remind them of the love that surrounds them, even amidst their grief. Sometimes, simply knowing that someone cares enough to sit quietly with them during their pain can be the most profound form of support.